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Information for the community – Updated guidelines from 5 August 2021
Acknowledgement
The Women's and Children's Hospital is located on the traditional lands for the Kaurna people, and we respect their spiritual relationship with their Country. We also acknowledge that the Kaurna people are the custodians of the Adelaide region, and that their cultural and heritage beliefs are still as important to the living Kaurna people today.

Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people should be aware that this website may contain images, voices and names of people who have passed away.

Get support in any way that is appropriate for you. Try to look after yourself and your needs. Take one day at a time.

  • Get support in any way that is appropriate for you.
  • Try to look after yourself and your needs.
  • Take one day at a time.
  • Be aware that everyone involved will react differently.
  • Surround yourself with family and friends, and those who will support you.
  • Share your feelings with others. Find a trusted person to talk to about your loss. Ask them for help and anything you need – friends want to do something to help.
  • Be active and exercise.
  • Eat a healthy diet and limit alcohol. The foods we eat can help us cope with stress.
  • Avoid medications such as sedatives – they can be useful for providing needed relief for short periods but should not be taken to avoid your grief entirely.
  • Resist being rushed into big decisions, such as moving or changing jobs.
  • Avoid activities you don't feel ready for if well-meaning friends try to help you 'feel better'.
  • Set goals for yourself. Consider volunteer work for a charity or develop new interests.
  • Maintain hope. You may find hope and comfort from those who have experienced a similar loss. Knowing some things that helped them, and realising that they have recovered and time does help, may give you hope that sometime in the future your grief may be less raw and painful.
  • Don't underestimate the healing effects of small pleasures as you are ready. Sunsets, a walk in the bush, a favourite food – these are all small steps toward regaining your pleasure in life itself.
  • Give yourself permission to 'slip back'. Sometimes, after a period of feeling good, people find themselves back in the old feelings of extreme sadness, despair or anger. This is often the nature of grief, up and down, and it may happen over and over for a time. It happens because, as humans, we cannot take in all of the pain and the meaning of death at once. So we let it in a little at a time.
  • There is no time limit for grieving.
  • Seek professional support at any time.
  • Be aware that friends and family may not know how to comfort you. Knowing what you expect from others may help you to communicate what you need more clearly.1

1 Adapted from: Journeys: Palliative care for children and teenagers, version 2, Eds. Fleming, S. Coombs, S. and Phillips, M., Palliative Care Australia, 2010.

Myths and facts about grief

MYTH: The pain will go away faster if you ignore it

Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long term. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.

MYTH: It’s important to “be strong” in the face of loss

Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to ‘protect’ your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.

MYTH: If you don’t cry, it means you aren’t sorry about the loss

Fact: Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one. Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it.

MYTH: Grief should last about a year

Fact: There is no right or wrong time frame for grieving. How long it takes differs from person to person.